Coming Out
I never technically came out to my family as being non-binary. I just kind of started rejecting the words "daughter" and "female." My mom, she was she was really confused, like, "What is this Paulina? What are you talking about?" And I was just like, "Well, you know there's boy and there's girl, right? She's like, "Yeah." And I was like, "OK, well I'm neither."
I came out to my mom two years ago. I was 15 and I didn't really explain much. I was like, "Oh, I want to use they/them pronouns." And the immediate thing was like, "That's not grammatically correct." And I was like, "Hmmm." Then I got an hour lecture from my older sister about how I wasn't being compassionate enough for other people, and how I wasn't recognizing how difficult it may be for them.
I did come out as male first, and I transitioned. And then I came to realize that, maybe at one point it was a good word to describe what I was, but now it's not quite fitting. I've never talked to my parents about my being non-binary. As far as I know, they still use masculine words in order to refer to me, and that's fine. I don't really much care about that.
So I got this job at a cafe, right? I've been working there for like two weeks, and everybody was referring to me as "she/her." And then after two weeks, somebody came up to me and was like, "What are your pronouns?" And I was like, I don't want to say anything. It just creates so many questions, and I don't like people being like, "Why didn't you tell me before?"
