There are really strict gender roles in the Mexican community. Growing up I was told to "be a girl" and "be a lady." I had to learn how to cook. I was expected to want kids and want a family, and I didn't want any of that.
I just wanted to have fun and so I rejected femininity and I rejected these gender roles because I didn't want that for myself.
I come from a place of pretty high privilege. I'm white, and I'm upper-middle class. Both my parents went to college. They both have graduate degrees.
So I think for me, being non-binary and being under the trans umbrella has enabled me to access a lot more information and just learn a lot more than I would have if I were cis and stayed in my white, suburban neighborhood.
It's hard to be black and be seen as feminine regardless of what you are doing -- regardless of whether people think you're fruity, you're this, you're that, [or] you're born with certain parts. So I have to navigate a gender nonconforming body and a black body.
I know that I get tired of being woke, and other people get tired of me being woke, and that we all need some rest.
