I know many people who have been denied access somewhere or have felt like they weren't wanted in a certain place or establishment because of their ethnicity. If you have, you are not the only one. I experienced this feeling my freshman year of highschool. I don't believe this was my first time, but it is the clearest I can remember. Being on a sports team was something I knew I wanted to accomplish my first year in high school. I successfully made the basketball team, but had to quit shortly after because my family and I had just moved almost two hours away, and practices made my schedule way too hectic. I then tried golf, and was known by faculty and students for being the only black girl on the team. I will admit, I definitely was the worst player because it was my first time playing, but I was determined to learn.
The girls on my team were friendly and helpful, but going to the country club, where we had our practices, was my biggest challenge. The country club consisted of only Caucasian and Asian people, again making me the only black person there. There had been an incident where I was asked to get our golf balls, and to do this you had to show ID. I gave the man my school ID and told him I was collecting balls for our school team to practice. He looked back at my card, then me, five times, repeating my last name. “There’s no way you go to this school,” with it being a private college prep school. I had to go back and get another member of my team to confirm that I was with them. This made me feel like I didn’t belong, or that it was wrong for me to be part of this team. Another incident occurred during practice, when it was my turn to swing and the hole was about fifty yards away. Nervous, just as I lifted my club, two older white men were driving by. When they saw I was up, they parked their golf cart, and waited for me to swing, snickering. I knew the ball wouldn’t go far, and it didn’t. Only about 10 ft. They drove away quickly, laughing as loud as they could, leaving dust trails behind them.